Accommodations

As we sit waiting for Jen’s next appointment, I look over to see her smiling. She is watching a video on her phone but then sees me watching her. She hands me her phone and tells me to press play.

The video is one of those feel good moments where a group of boys make accommodations to their game of basketball so that another boy in a wheel chair can participate. As I watch it, Jen smiles and then looks out the giant window in front of us.

There are people and cars moving about on this glumly day in Columbus. Those out there have no need for accommodations but those around us, that is not the case. The older gentleman down the hall talking to his son as they wait for their love one to return from radiation. And to our left, another older couple waiting quietly together. Jen is definitely one of the younger people here being treated.

Nearly everyone who moves about us has a walker or a wheel chair, many without hair and many with some additional medical equipment. A older man walks by holding the hand of another as if he was a child holding the hand of his mother. I assume it is his wife’s hand he holds but the empty gaze in his eyes tells me he isn’t really sure about much around him.

This is reality for us…fo16991819_391836147841889_210909471154883614_or many others. Once a life as those on the other side of the window, now the one where accommodations are needed. Their was a time I hadn’t understood or cared about the accommodations. Now even the large silver shiny button on the wall to open a door seems to be so very important for those without strength to open the dour or for those who arent walk freely through it.

I have countless times throughout this painful path talk about what it has taught me and about seeing the blessings that surround us. I’m not sure I am heard. I hope I am. We spend too much time not understanding how wonderful it is you don’t need accommodations. Too much time only taking care of our own struggles without care of those who walk painful paths like this. Too much time complaining without notice of how truely blessed we are.

Someday I hope I can return to the world of no need for accommodations but be like the boys in video Jen shared with me. And when Jen can once again move about without these, i hope we still take notice and reach out to those who continue to need them. And continue to see how blessed we are in this world.

Transplant Date Set

Jennifer and I got home from her appt. in Columbus about an hour ago. It was a long day with lots of meetings.

Her first meeting was with PT. They got a baseline of where she is in her strength. This will help them understand what she looses through the process of transplant. After PT, we met with nutrition. Again a baseline of where she currently is, how much she is currently eating and what foods she is able to tolerate and how much weight loss she has had thus far.

We then met with her social worker, followed by her transplant doctor, followed by three different individuals who explained clincial trials she qualifies for. We learned Jennifer’s donor is from the USA and that we will be able to have anonymous contact with this individual post transplant and after a year both parties can identify themselves. We also learned her last bone marrow had no signs of leukemia, however since the last bone marrow biopsy will be more than five weeks ago by time of transplant, she will have another biopsy next week. And we learned a set date for transplant (as long as her biopsy comes back still in remission). Originally she was going next week for three days of IV outpatient treatment followed by admission. Because her donor was unable to meet that schedule, that has changed to IV outpatient treatment from March 18-20, with admission on the 21st and transplant on the 28th.

Also the doctor gave me some positive news. We had been told previous that Jen needed to live in Columbus until day 100. He said that if Jen is doing well and is to the point of only needing to be seen once a week, we can return home at that point. This could shorten her stay in Columbus by several days/weeks. For now, we just take it one day at a time.

The first clinical trial they will do with her is where they take a bit of blood several times through the process and watch for signs of Graft Verses Host Disease (GVHD). The trial is to see if there are markers that show up prior to the disease showing outward signs. This also has a baseline that may down the road help them see possible development of the disease.

The second clinical trial is where Jen wears a fit bit for 5 weeks. During this time they measure how much she is moving and see the coloration between activity and recovery times. And added bonus is she gets to keep the fit bit at the end.

And the final clinical trial was one they had measured her for a couple weeks ago. She is to receive a bone targeted radiation that is to protect her organs. She has been approved for this trial and if Jen decides to move forward with it, it will be the plan for her radiation.

So although a long day, we gained a ton of knowledge about the upcoming days, weeks, and months. Jen remains very positive and is ready to put an end to this disease and start living her life again. We are so impressed with her strength and her faith in God and in the staff at the James.

Accommodations

As we sit waiting for Jen’s next appointment, I look over to see her smiling. She is watching a video on her phone but then sees me watching her. She hands me her phone and tells me to press play.16991819_391836147841889_210909471154883614_o

The video is one of those feel good moments where a group of boys make accommodations to their game of basketball so that another boy in a wheel chair can participate. As I watch it, Jen smiles and then looks out the giant window in front of us.

There are people and cars moving about on this glumly day in Columbus. Those out there have no need for accommodations but those around us, that is not the case. The older gentleman down the hall talking to his son as they wait for their love one to return from radiation. And to our left, another older couple waiting quietly together. Jen is definitely one of the younger people here being treated.

Nearly everyone who moves about us has a walker or a wheel chair, many without hair and many with some additional medical equipment. A older man walks by holding the hand of another as if he was a child holding the hand of his mother. I assume it is his wife’s hand he holds but the empty gaze in his eyes tells me he isn’t really sure about much around him.

This is reality for us…for many others. Once a life as those on the other side of the window, now  one where accommodations are needed. Their was a time I hadn’t understood or cared about the accommodations. Now even the large silver shiny button on the wall to open a door seems to be so very important for those without strength to open the door or for those who arent able to  walk freely through it.

I have countless times throughout this painful path spoke about what it has taught me and about seeing the blessings that surround us. I’m not sure I am heard. I hope I am. We spend too much time not understanding how wonderful it is you don’t need accommodations. Too much time only taking care of our own struggles without care of those who walk painful paths like this. Too much time complaining without notice of how truely blessed we are.

Someday I hope I can return to the world of no need for accommodations but be like the boys in video Jen shared with me. And when Jen can once again move about without these, i hope we still take notice and reach out to those who continue to need them. And continue to see how blessed we are in this world.

My transplant admission has been moved back a full week. Admission on the 16th with transplant on the 23rd. My donor wasn’t available for the week we had planned so everything is moved back a full week.

We also have learned my donor is from the states.

Peach Fuzz – A Word From Jen

As I sit here in the waiting area of the hematology department there is this guy sitting a ways away from me. His hair is falling out much like all the others around me. The woman with him whom I can only assume to be his mother based on what she does.

She reaches over and is talking to him and touches his balding head much like my mom does quite frequently.

Must be a mom thing to want to touch the peach fuzz on a balding head. Like it’s supposed to be comforting

Cancer takes more away from a person than most realize.

Like for instance I can count on one hand the number of times I have driven a car since October. Those 5 times have only been around my small town.

I have to be driven everywhere. My independence to drive is one thing I have lost through this whole cancer bs.

My leukemia can cause me to become light headed and dizzy. Also cancer requires chemo. This we all know. And there really is such a thing called chemo brain. With this one can become confused and disoriented. Also one can be excessively tired out of the blue. Such things are not safe to have while driving.

Once I am in the clear of my chemo brain which takes weeks to get too. I can drive short distances.

With my transplant coming up in the next week or two things won’t change much in the driving world. It could be a good 6 months before I’m allowed behind the wheel.

Tomorrow I may get the chance to drive myself to my appointment in Lima. This may be the last chance I get to enjoy my independence when it comes to driving.

Cancer takes away so much more than people realize. It’s a cruel bully I hope to silence once and for all.

Disney Raffle!

Friends and family of Jennifer are having a raffle and tickets are available now.

Tickets are $10 each or 3 for $20.  Winner gets $3000 in Disney Cash.  Raffle will be held on July 15, 2017 at Jennifer’s Welcome Home Celebration/ Be The Match Marrow Drive.

To purchase a ticket contract Jessica Crawford 419.615.8063 ,  Joyce Honigford 419. 615.8062. , Tabitha Maag 419. 615.8756,  Matt Honigford 419.890.9950, or Randy Honigford 419.615.7188

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The raffle has been possible by generosity of these area businesses.

Gold Level Businesses ($500+ donation)

PRO-TEC-4color-small1ProTec Coating Company
5500 PRO-TEC Parkway
Leipsic, OH 45856-9234

 

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Unverferth Manufacturing Co., Inc.,
601 Broad St, Kalida, OH 45853

 

Silver Level Businesses ($250 donation)

Remingler Manufacturing  16394 US-224, Kalida, OH 45853 

Wibby’s Sports Bar  Kalida, Ohio 45853

 

Bronze Level Businesses ($100 donation)

Dr. Thomas  Siefker  D.D.S. LLC –  125 W Main St, Ottoville, OH 45876

UIS Insurance & Investment – 971 N. Perry Ottawa, OH 45875

Kahle & Associates CPA LLC 102 S Fifth Street PO Box 466 Kalida, Ohio 45853

Miller Precision Mfg. Industries, Inc 131 Progressive Dr.  Box 489, Ottoville, Ohio 45876

Millies Cafe PO Box 564 141 West Canal St. Ottoville, Ohio 45876

Friend Level Businesses ( < $100 donation)

Randy Altenburger Insurance

Family Chiropractor Center, Dr. Brian Saxton DC

Schnipke Engraving

Ottoville Lumber